Such is life!!!
Divorce!
Divorce in the day and age when I got married was a dirty word in India and in my mind, come what may, I was definitely not going to get divorced 30 some years ago.
My marriage started off as a disaster from day one, but, I was an Indian girl and for me marriage was forever - and I was going to have to make it work one way or the other. And I tried and I tried and I tried, but, it takes two hands to clap and the harder I worked at making the marriage work, the more the other party slacked off. Procrastination was his first, middle and last name and I was a victim of it all.
Anyway, the long and short of it is that I ended up taking a divorce 25 years later - after having brought into the world some beautiful but, unfortunate children who were going through the bad marriage and the divorce with us right through.
To me, divorce, is sadder than death of a loved partner (in a sense), because it is actually death of a marriage. Death has to come to us all at some time or the other, but death of a marriage does not. And as you go through it all you get no sympathy from others - in fact, everyone who knows you has an opinion and jdgement about the whole issue. Also, you still have to deal with the person you were married to and try and work out ways to make it workable and as happy as possible for the children - the innocent victims of divorce.
And also, strangely the moment you take a divorce, people seem to think that you are open to their advances and sometimes even women friends have doubts when you are around their husbands. For Gods sake - I am still the same person I was when I was married, still holding the same values and morals - don't sit and judge and condemn me because I lucked out when I married someone who was totally wrong for me.
